Luna,
You make me think of my neice. If only one day........
Think of being on a ship. You and your husband are slowly but surely leaving behind the land of Dub.
You can still see the people on the coastline clearly.They are still your " friends" in a way.
But they will get ( are getting in fact ) smaller and smaller. One day what they say and do wont have any effect on you. They'll be too far away to notice.
And whilst I'm on this analogy, remember this:
ships are safe whilst they are in the harbour. But thats not what ships are made for.
Have a nice cruise.
Captain Picard.